Have you found your spouse looking at porn online, or do
you have a feeling they look at porn online? Are you
starting to think your spouse may have an addiction to
porn? If you have caught your spouse looking at online
pornography, you may feel hurt, shocked, betrayed, and
more. However, before you get too upset, you should
determine if it is really addiction or just curiosity.
Here are some tips and pointers to help you determine
just that.
How Much Time is Your Spouse Spending on
the Computer?
If your spouse never spends much time on the computer
and you only caught them looking at porn once or twice,
the chances are it's just a case of curiosity that your
spouse is experiencing. This is perfectly normal, as
many people are curious and look at porn once in a
while. However, if your spouse is spending a lot of time
on the computer and you notice that they want to be on
the computer when they are alone, they may have an
addiction to porn.
Many people who are addicted to porn find that they
want to be online all the time looking at it. They get
online when they are alone, or after everyone else in
the house is sleeping. They may also have the urge to
pull up porn on the computer at work. Men or women who
want to be on the computer all the time looking at porn
most likely have some sort of addiction.
Is Your Spouse Irritable, Cranky, or Even Angry When
You Mention Porn?
If you ask your spouse about the porn in an innocent
way, such as, "I noticed you looking at porn on the
computer earlier," does your spouse get upset? Do they
act guilty or angry that you know about them looking at
porn? Typically, at first a spouse should act unsure
because they aren't sure how you're going to take the
fact that they were looking at porn. However, if your
spouse instead becomes very irritable, this may indicate
an addiction to porn.
Does Your Spouse Isolate Himself or Herself and Lose
Track of Time on the Computer?
People who have an addiction do not want others to
know. Therefore, they will try to hide the condition
from you by hiding their porn. If you know your spouse
is losing track of time on the computer and hiding their
porn, you should be concerned. There is a difference
between being addicted to porn and simply having the
desire to look once in a while.
Porn addiction, just like any other addiction, is
frustrating and difficult for your spouse and you. The
first thing you need is for your spouse to admit that he
or she is addicted to porn. Then, together the two of
you can seek help for the issue and work together to
overcome the porn addiction. Using the signs above,
determine if your spouse is addicted to porn or if it is
just a natural curiosity. Good luck!